Cheating Wife


First of all let me say Cheaters are welcome to visit WhenOneFleshWorships.com. We love cheaters just as God loves cheaters. However, we simultaneous state that we do not condone cheating and adulterous activity. Infidelity has ravaged marriages and destroys families. Our objective is not to romanticize this activity but help those who truly want to be delivered from an affair and help with healing for those who have been victimized by it.

For God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil.

                               --- Ecclesiastes 12:14
                            King James Version (KJV)

I love Paula Deen. One of the most poignant interviews that aired recently on Larry King Live was with Paula Deen on August 11th, 2007. In this interview she shared from her heart her downward slide into a ten year affair with a married man and her summation and conclusion of the entire matter.

     DEEN: I was probably 45 years old, 44, 45.

     KING: How did you handle that for 10 years?

     DEEN: It was so hard.

     KING: Were you in love with him?

     DEEN: I was very much in love with him. Something about him reminded me of my daddy, you know. It goes back to that. All I did was work, and my days were anywhere from 16 to 20 hours a day seven days a week.

     KING: What did he do?

     DEEN: He was an engineer, an electrical engineer.

     KING: Ten years.

     DEEN: Ten years.

     KING: How did it end?

     DEEN: I met my husband. I met my husband. It was like that was the only -- when I would see him, and he treated me really bad, you know.

     KING: The married guy?

     DEEN: Yes. If I could get down on my knees and I could beg people never, never do what I did.

     The entire transcription is here:
http://transcripts.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0708/11/lkl.01.html
Aired August 11, 2007 - 21:00 ET "Larry King Live"

She later shared that her fall into adultery was due to extreme loneliness. She went on to say that she knew it was wrong. She was not raised that way but she ended up in this relationship with someone that she states treated her really badly. Her synopsis of the entire ten years was further stated “I told my children because I -- I don't lie well. I don't lie well at all. And I am so ashamed at the fact that I would sit around and wait for someone else's crumbs. Never, ever, ever do that. "

I am proud of Paula Deen for sharing with the world the reality of wrong choices in today’s society and the real price paid. She later states that she started to pray and asked God for a “neighbor.” Years later the Lord answered her prayers and her new “neighbor” later became her husband.

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There are many many excuses and situations given for people who commit adultery. The bottom line is
 "Walk in the spirit and you will not fulfill the lust of the Flesh."
 

"Betrayal, in any form, kills trust and inflicts pain and feelings of
 loss not unlike those experienced upon death."
by Donna R. Bellafiore,
LCSW, CADC
Book: Straight Talk
About Betrayal
 A Self Help Guide for Couples
 

Are you at Risk of Committing Adultery?

Revised from Torn Asunder
Recovery from
Extramarital Affairs
Authors: by Dave Carder with Duncan Jaenickle
   Moody Press

1. Being a fierce competitor.

2. A Tendency towards compulsive behavior.

3. Feeling alone in one’s marriage and unable to share deepest feelings.

4. Feeling stressed out over demands and responsibilities.

5. Enjoys “living “close to the edge” and seeing what you can get away with.

6. Harboring revenge.

7. Lost of a close love one.

8. Poor recent financial history with low credit score, bounced checks, or even bankruptcy.

9. Major life transition – pregnancy, midlife, retirement.

10. Lots of acquaintances but not one close friend.

11. Being driven and unable to relax or have fun.

Referenced from:        
Chapter 5: Other Factors Contributing to Infidelity
 Subheading:"LifeStyle Patterns Contributing to Infidelity”

What is the number one Reason Married Women Cheat?
 

1. Husband provides little or no physical intimacy.
2. Husband provides sex but she is not satisfied.
3. Neglect
4. Women have wandering eyes by nature
5. Hopes of Better sex

            Number One Reason Women Cheat is NEGLECT.

Dr. Joyce Hamilton Berry, a clinical psychologist with offices in Washington, D.C., and Columbia, Md., says that when men cheat, it is usually not an indication that they are unhappy in their marriages.

"When I counsel clients, I compare male infidelity to a man walking into the kitchen and seeing a chocolate cake sitting on the counter. It looks good; it smells good. He is not hungry, but he will eat the cake anyway. In other words, men sometimes cheat when they see a woman who is attractive and appears to be interested, and even though there is nothing lacking in their marital relationships, they initiate affairs anyway.

On the other hand, women usually cheat when the marriage is not fulfilling and is already in trouble. They cheat because they feel neglected, or because the husband has been unfaithful."

                                  INFIDELITY II Why Women Cheat
                                  Ebony, Dec, 1998 by Lynn Normen