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When One Flesh Worships
Special Report:
New Beginnings for the Sexless Marriage
Six Part Series
by J. T. Wright
Marriage Sex & Relationships Article
Keywords:
marital intimacy, christian marriage,
passionate christian wife
healing in marriage
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Part 5: Kick the Tires and Light the Fires
Ever heard of airplanes not flying?. Well it turns out that airplanes
have to fly or else they never will be able to. I worked in aircraft
research for some years and we had to take the airplane out and run
the engines on the ramp when the airplane had no scheduled flights.
The mechanics told me one day, when we were in the middle of major
budgetary problems for flight research, “J.T. if these airplanes
just sit in the hangar and they don’t fly they don’t exercise their
engines, they atrophy extremely fast.” I always noticed that the
mechanics would get really happy when it was time to fly. One of my
favorite friends, Mo would say, “J. T. lets kick the tires and light
the fires.”
I am here to tell you wife, husband you were made to make love to
each other. This prescription is not for a sexless marriage it is
for a joyful marriage. Not coming together regularly can cause a
fast decline in the state of your marriage. So, lets kick the tires and light the fires.
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time,
that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together
again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
1 Corinthians 7:5
King James Version (KJV)
Certainly this is a Biblical precept and I have heard preachers
spend an entire sermon on this one verse. However, sex should not be a
demand. Yes the Bible says husbands and wives are to come together.
But you will never experience the shear joy and pleasure God
intended if it is being done out of obligation or because of
demands, and under duress.
That is not what this prescription is about. It is about saying I
want to love my spouse and we are going to take consorted action to
rehabilitate. If your spouse will not make love to you, use wisdom
and be very careful what you say to him or her. If you don’t know
what to say “say nothing.” Just love them in other ways
as much as you can.
Take time to explore your spouse. Take time to study each other. I
think this verse to “defraud ye not” is in the Bible to remind us at
times when we have given birth to twins, or been in an accident or
simply forgotten that our spouse is not our room-mate. Our spouse is
suppose to be our full time LOVER.
Massage your wife’s back
with baby oil if you can't budget the expensive massage cremes.
While you are massaging her back and neck ask for feedback. Ask her
how it feels.
Note for Men:
You need to pray for your wife. Ask her to dance with you. Listen to
her. Find out what’s on her mind.Give mama some “me” time. Practice.
It will get better.
About the Author: If you’re ready for a riveting, real, and
no-holds-barred exposition of what it means to be a loving wife,
then J.T. Wright’s When One Flesh Worships (paperback, 978-1-60266-865-2) is ready
to deliver. The book reignites the matrimonial fire for wives
through an expressive treatise of God’s intended plan for marital
intimacy between a husband and wife.
When One Flesh Worships Special Report:
New Beginnings for the Sexless Marriage - Six Part Series
Part 5: Kick the Tires and Light the Fires
http://www.WhenOneFleshWorships.com
Copyright © 2007 J. T. Wright
