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In retrospect, I had received an injury - a blow. It was a freak and bizarre injury and I was not my usual self. (If you're lost you may need to click back to Part 2 - the Downward Spiral)

Because of the trauma of the injury, I realized after about one month – my husband and I had not made love for over one month. Yes, the love doctor herself had hit a lull. We were affectionate. We hugged. We talked. We appreciated each other but we had not actually made love in over four weeks. I believe we loved each other more after the accident than before. However, the usual love juices were not flowing for me. The easy thing to do would have been for me to succumb to how I felt. I just wanted to be alone for a while but I was married. Quite frankly I think the accident had left me in with symptoms of post- traumatic stress. I started experience paranoia and when I was alone after dark I would be very afraid. I think I had suffered true trauma. My sexual desire was gone.

Consequently, I wrote myself a prescription. I knew what I had to do even though I did not want to do it. What did I do?

I offered my body to my husband every day for seven days.

Ladies don’t throw tomatoes at me. No, I did not tell you, wife, to offer your body to your husband for seven days. You must realize that I know a few things and I knew this was going to fix the problem quick and that I am held to a level of accountability with the Lord . I knew according to God’s Word I was stepping into disobedience and I needed to get things back quickly so I prayed and took drastic action.

My pastor, who is a woman, further told me “don’t let the enemy steal anything from you with this accident.”

(Do realize though that it would not be a bad idea for you to offer your body to your husband everyday for seven days. You grown – its up to you.) Maybe for you breaking the spiral will mean locking yourselves in a hotel room all weekend. You need to pray and seek God. As I was saying,

I felt like the Nike Commercial – Just do it. So go buy a pair of Nike’s and – and just . . ..

This did several things. This broke the downward spiral in marital intimacy. Moreover, I realized that there was more effort required by me in exercise, rest diet and my water drinking (very important) in order to get back our lovemaking rhythm. We are fleshly, physical beings and sexual intimacy requires energy, alertness. I know that the downward spiral started because I was physically hurting in my body and I felt bad. Its difficult to think about sexual pleasure when you can barely walk, your head hurts, and your body is in pain.

The first time back after a month, in light of my injury and meds was quite lacking. I was worried. He was extremely happy. I took my prescription everyday. By day seven, I was so happy that I had written that prescription. We were our old rambunctious selves. The joy was back and our bodies were one again. The pleasure was threw the roof.

There was one other thing I did during this period. I prayed for a fresh holy ghost infilling of God’s anointing in my marriage and in my marital bed. I had two other intercessors praying for my health and my husband’s health as well for fresh oil in our marriage. I had to bind up depression and all the effects of the accident – in Jesus name.

Here’s a secret for women. The more a woman makes love the more she wants to make love . The act of making love creates endorphins and all these other feel good feeling things and you will look forward to being with your husband.

About the Author: If you’re ready for a riveting, real, and no-holds-barred exposition of what it means to be a loving wife, then J.T. Wright’s When One Flesh Worships (paperback, 978-1-60266-865-2) is ready to deliver. The book re-ignites the matrimonial fire for wives through an expressive treatise of God’s intended plan for marital intimacy between a husband and wife.


When One Flesh Worships Special Report:
New Beginnings for the Sexless Marriage - Six Part Series
Part 3: Prescription for a Sexless Marriage

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